“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)
Back in college, I was not a person with many friends. I would always stay at the back or in the corner of the classroom, surrounded by the people I’m most comfortable with. I am not one to talk to someone I was not close to because I don’t feel secured. Back then, I would reject Facebook friend requests from people not in my circle. I wanted my privacy so I had few friends. And no one would know my struggles unless it was too much to handle, because I had the same facial expression every single day. Not my family. Not my closest friends. No one. I had a deep sense of longing for isolation, back then. And I kept on thinking to myself, “That’s just the way it is. You don’t have to force yourself to socialize or smile. You do what your heart wants to. If you want to be alone, then be alone.” But as I grew in my faith, I learned that all those thoughts were lies because we are not alone in this battle.
“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.” (James 1:2-4)
The Christian life is not as easy as it seem to be. We were told we will face trials of many kinds and no one would be spared from this. We are all wrestling in this broken and fallen world. But when I underwent a difficult season in my life, I wanted to revert back to isolation. It was hard. It was painful. I was depressed. I wanted to cry the whole day. I didn’t want anyone to bother. I wanted to be encapsulated in my thoughts. I wanted to be alone. I didn’t want anyone to know. I didn’t want anyone to ask. I didn’t want to talk to anyone. I thought that it is my problem and I need no one. I reached that pit where it was dark and deep. I could not see a hint of light. But God’s love is beautiful and He promised He will never leave us nor forsake us. (Joshua 1:5) He found me sulking in my corner. He took me out of the pit I was in and helped me take my first step. I knew then what I needed to do, and that is to reconnect with the Lord. I had to seek Him, pursue Him and soak in His presence. And in there, I saw hope that the best remains and the best is yet to be. It was great and a really refreshing time, but God did not stop there. He wanted more for me and He wanted me to reach out to people to tell my story so they could pray for me.
“For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” (Matthew 18:20)
And I was awaken to a whole new perspective when I talked to different people. It’s one thing when you’re praying alone and asking God to answer your questions, but the outlook is wider when people are praying for you because they will reveal to you words from the Father that you won’t get in your “me time.” When I felt weak, they prayed for the strength of the Lord to come through. When I felt tired, they encouraged me to persevere. And I knew it wasn’t false because the Lord is working in them, as He had promised to be in our midst whenever we are gathered in His name. So just a little shout out to the people who battled and stood with me in prayer. Thank you guys, you know who you are. I believe that the Lord will reward you for your heart to help 🙂
“And they devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers.” (Acts 2:42)
“And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.” (Hebrews 10:24-25)
As followers of Christ, we are instructed to have fellowship with one another based on our fellowship with God. We were instructed to love, be compassionate, help out and encourage our brothers and sisters-in-Christ. We are in one spiritual family and we should honor the Lord through obedience in His word. There will be struggles in our walk with the Lord, but rest assured that if you have people backing you up in your faith, you will not be quickly broken. You, the people around you and the Lord will consist that cord.
If you are in a church and is still not part of any group, I suggest you reach out to one of the leaders so you can belong into one. And if you stumbled upon this post and have been struggling, visit a local church in your area.
May the good Lord bless you and keep you!